How to Text a Girl for the First Time

You want to know how to text a girl for the first time.

Are you nervous?

I’m sure you are at least a little bit nervous because hey, it’s your first time.

I still remember the very first phone number I got from a daygame approach.

I must have spent hours staring at my phone before I sent the first text message.

And because I made such a big deal out of it and because I had no idea what to do…

… I never heard from her again.

That’s why I decided to write this article about how to text a girl for the first time for you.

Table of Contents

1. 1. Learning how to text a girl for the first time is for action takers
2. 2. Text her to see if you got the right number
3. 3. Text her a funny meme or gif
4. 4. Text her with the confidence of an experienced seducer
5. 5. Text a girl for the first time at a time when she can reply
6. 6. Don’t send a wall of text in your first messages
7. 7. Stick to the one message per attempt rule
8. 8. Check your grammar before you hit the send button
9. 9. Ask her questions that trigger positive emotions
10. 10. Let her know when you will continue the texting conversation

I don’t want you to make the same mistake.

I don’t want you to stare at your phone for hours without ever doing something.

Instead, I want you to know exactly what you have to text her and how you have to text her.

Let’s have a look at how it’s done…

1. Learning how to text a girl for the first time is for action takers

Are you an action taker?

That’s what I need to know.

Most men don’t succeed at texting women because they just don’t take action.

They do exactly what I used to do with this girl who gave me her number.

I stared at the phone and didn’t do anything.

Then eventually I sent a really boring text message and never heard from her again.

I want you to do the opposite of what I used to do back then.

I want you to take action because procrastination destroys creativity.

And if you want to succeed at the texting game, you need to be creative.

Or let’s say it like this.

You need to be 5% more creative than all the other guys who are completely uncreative.

2. Text her to see if you got the right number

Do you actually have the right number?

There’s an easy way to find out.

I mean, there’s nothing more disappointing than texting a woman just to find out that she gave you the wrong number.

You can for example send her a funny first text message to check if it’s the right number:

“Let’s hope that this is you Jenny and not the number of a Sicilian Mafia boss”

You can use the example I just mentioned or you come up with your own creative idea.

Yes, that’s how to text a girl for the first time.

You combine playfulness with a purpose.

The message I just shared with you is funny and playful but at the same time, it has a specific purpose.

The purpose is to find out if this woman gave you the right number.

Now you know and you made her laugh.

That’s a double win.

3. Text her a funny meme or gif

Memes and GIFs are great for first text messages.

Just think about what you want to communicate with your message and then send her an appropriate image or short video.

It will make her laugh and when a woman is in a good mood she’s way more likely to reply to you.

The reason why these kinds of text messages are so effective is that they trigger positive emotions that she then links to you.

That’s all you want to do with your first message.

4. Text her with the confidence of an experienced seducer

As a man who wants to learn how to text a girl for the first time, you want to communicate confidence with your messages.

Using plain text makes it a bit complicated to communicate your confidence.

Thank God most messenger apps allow you to send voice messages.

You can make use of this feature to communicate your confidence.

Of course, you can communicate your confidence by speaking into the microphone like a timid mouse.

Use your confident voice and seduce her with your voice messages.

And yes, your very first text message can be a voice message.

5. Text a girl for the first time at a time when she can reply

This is so important that most men forget about this important factor.

Your goal is that she actually replies to your first text message.

That’s why you want to send her a message at a time when it’s actually possible for her to respond to you.

What happens when you send her a text message at 11 p.m. and she has to work the next day?

She most likely won’t be able to reply and before sure won’t have the time or concentration for engaging in a texting conversation.

What if you sent her a text message the moment she shows up at work?

Now she has to work for the next 8 hours and she might forget your text until the evening.

When it comes to learning how to text a girl for the first time, think about when she’s at home.

Then text her.

For most people that’s around 5 p.m. to 7 p.m. in the evening.

That’s when the chances are high that she will read your message and respond to you.

6. Don’t send a wall of text in your first messages

Please don’t send her a wall of text.

The last thing you want to do is to overwhelm her so much with your first message that she doesn’t want to reply to you.

Don’t make your first message longer than one paragraph. One sentence is even better.

When it comes to texting, short messages usually win.

7. Stick to the one message per attempt rule

I know what you want to do.

You want to send her another message when she doesn’t reply.

If I were you, I wouldn’t do that.

Sending multiple messages communicates neediness and desperation.

Wait until she replies.

I know that you have the patience to survive it.

8. Check your grammar before you hit the send button

Women are attracted to educated and intelligent men.

What happens when you send a message with one mistake after another?

She’ll get the feeling that you’re a complete idiot.

I mean yes, if you are not a native speaker you are allowed to make one or two mistakes.

But still…

Check your grammar and don’t torture her eyes with these kinds of messages.

9. Ask her questions that trigger positive emotions

What should you ask her when you text her for the very first time?

Well, you shouldn’t ask her boring questions.

You don’t want to ask her about her college major or what she had for dinner.

Ask her about her best memories. Ask her about her dreams.

And don’t forget to ask her about the thing she always wanted to do but never had the chance to experience.

That’s how to text a girl for the first time and make her want more.

10. Let her know when you will continue the texting conversation

I know that it has become a trend nowadays to abruptly end texting conversations.

I don’t want you to do that.

It’s way better to let her know when you will contact her again.

Just write:

“I’ll text you again tomorrow evening”

Now she knows when she will hear from you again and she’s waiting for you.