How to Tell if Your Girlfriend is Losing Interest (6 Signs)

You want to know how to tell if your girlfriend is losing interest.

Well, let me start this article by saying that I’m sorry to hear this. I’m pretty sure that you are here because things are not going that well in your relationship.

You are asking yourself important questions. You want to know what’s going on. Maybe you are already suspecting that she’s cheating on you.

Table of Contents

1. Learning how to tell if your girlfriend is losing interest is a painful process
2. She is no longer affectionate with you
3. Once passionate kisses turn into lip movements
4. She is always checking out other guys when she’s with you
5. She says “I love you” but it doesn’t feel like it
6. She acts bored when you are out on dates
7. She is not in the moment with you when you are making love

Or at least that she might be thinking about doing it. She seems so distant. She behaves so differently.

What’s going on?

Please allow me to share the signs your girlfriend is losing interest that every man who is in a relationship has to be aware of.

Learning how to tell if your girlfriend is losing interest is a painful process

Before we get started with the signs she is losing interest, I want to warn you.

The following emotions might come up while you are reading this article:

You might feel disgusted. You might feel helpless. And you might even question your sanity.

I just want to let you know that this is completely normal. But it’s important for you to learn how to tell if your girlfriend is losing interest.

Otherwise, you will always stay in the dark…

She is no longer affectionate with you

This is a bit deal. Don’t pretend that it’s not.

Unfortunately, a lot of men who are in this situation and who discover that the girl they are in love with is no longer in love with them, try to justify this behavior as something that is normal after a while.

It’s not!

It’s not normal to be in a loving relationship in which hugs are rare and kisses are even rarer. It’s not normal that your girlfriend doesn’t show any affection after the honeymoon phase anymore. All these things are not normal.

They are signs your girlfriend is losing interest.

I know that you don’t want to hear this because it hurts but I have to tell you the truth. If a woman is still interested in you and still attracted to you, she will kiss and touch you whenever she can. And if your girlfriend doesn’t do these things anymore…well…then she lost interest.

Once passionate kisses turn into lip movements

How does she kiss you?

As a man who wants to know how to tell if your girlfriend is losing interest, you have to remind yourself of the last kisses you shared.

Was there any passion? Was there any desire?

The way you kiss someone reveals a lot about your feelings for this person. The more passionate your girlfriend kisses you and the more she plays with your tongue, the more she is into you.

I mean hey, if you are into a woman, you also want to kiss her with passion. You don’t want to kiss her like a 70-year-old couple kisses each other after 50 years of a mostly unhappy marriage. I call this “lip movements”.

Your lips move but there is no desire and no passion. There is nothing that communicates a deeply emotional and sensual attraction. If your girlfriend kisses you like that, you have a problem. And again, I have to tell you something you don’t want to hear.

Just to be clear:

It’s not normal that the way you kiss your partner changes just because you are together for two years instead of two months. If there is still burning desire, the kiss will feel and taste the same. But if the desire is gone, then kisses become emotionless lip movements.

That’s how to tell if your girlfriend is losing interest. Her lips don’t lie.

She is always checking out other guys when she’s with you

This hurts.

I can’t say it any other way. When you are in a public place with your girlfriend and she is checking out random guys or maybe even your guy friends, then you have a big, big problem.

In fact, then your problem is so big that it can destroy you emotionally. The jealousy and the uncertainty will eat you up from the inside. You never know if she’s flirting or maybe even sleeping with another man.

The pictures in your mind will get brighter and the sounds will get louder. This is a clear sign your girlfriend is losing interest. A woman who truly desires and wants you would never look at other guys when she is with you, at least not in a way that communicates “I want them more than you”.

Do yourself a favor and don’t allow her to treat you in such a disrespectful way. The more you allow this to happen and the more you take it, the more she’ll do it. You have to communicate to her that you don’t want to be the second choice.

It’s time to move on.

She says “I love you” but it doesn’t feel like it

It just feels like empty words.

When a woman is really into you and she loves you with all her heart, you can feel the love in her eyes. You can see how much she loves you when she looks at you. And you can feel the love in her words when she says “I love you.”

What if a woman is just pretending that she loves you?

Your gut already knows what’s going on. Yep, I’m talking about this feeling in your belly. You can’t get rid of the feeling that something isn’t right and that her words don’t communicate any emotions.

What if she says the magic three words but she says it without any emotions? That’s how to tell if your girlfriend is losing interest. And when that’s the case, you really need to talk to her.

She acts bored when you are out on dates

What if you are on a date with her and she doesn’t seem excited to be there with you?

Of course, everybody can have a bad day. She might be tired. It’s okay if it happens once and the next time she’s all over you again.

But what if it happens all the time?

That’s how to tell if your girlfriend is losing interest.

Please be honest to yourself:

Do you want to date a woman who doesn’t enjoy being with you?

I hope the answer is no.

She is not in the moment with you when you are making love

She is no longer present when you are inside of her.

The love-making feels mechanical. It doesn’t feel like the deep bond and connection that a couple who’s in love should have. You are just moving your bodies. There is no passion, no desire, and also no love from her side.

This is by far the most painful sign that your girlfriend is losing interest or that she has already lost interest in you. If you have the feeling that she’s absent during sex, you have to talk to her about it.

Don’t pretend that it’s not a big deal because it is a big deal. And don’t pretend that everything is alright when it’s clearly not alright. It’s time to take action even though it might be painful in the short term.

In the long term, it will free you from a relationship that was making you miserable.