How to Talk to Girls on Tinder (9 Secrets)

You want to know how to talk to girls on Tinder.

If that’s the case, I’m pretty sure that you haven’t had the success that you wanted to have on this dating app.

In fact, most men who have talked to over the last couple of years didn’t experience any significant success with Tinder.

But it doesn’t have to be like that.

Believe it or not but you can succeed on Tinder, even if you are an average-looking man.

You just need the right strategy and you need to send the right messages.

That’s why I decided to create this article on how to talk to girls on Tinder for you.

 

1. Learning how to talk to girls on Tinder is about setting yourself apart from the masses

You have to keep in mind that most users on Tinder are men.

And you also have to remember that women receive way more matches than even the most handsome man on planet earth.

Yes, the data is against you.

There are more men than women and men have the sexual mating strategy of swiping right with every girl they find halfway attractive.

Women, even when they are looking for a hookup, are way pickier than any man can possibly imagine.

That’s why you have to set yourself apart from the masses.

You have to be more creative and your messages have to be better than what the average guy sends to girls on Tinder.

Keep this aspect of creativity in mind when you have a look at the different tips that I’m going to share with you in this article.

 

2. Find material on her profile for a specific compliment

What does her profile provide you with?

Take a closer look at your profile and see if she has written something in her profile that allows you to create the perfect first message.

Maybe she reveals something about her personality.

Maybe she tells you about what she likes and what she doesn’t like.

Maybe she mentions her hobby or her career.

Use whatever you can get.

The more specific and by specific I mean specifically tailored on her personality your first message is, the more success you will have.

Let all the other guys send their generic messages.

You are the one who positively surprises her because you will send her a message specifically tailored to her personality.

 

3.Use the three option first date technique

This is a great way to start a tinder conversation.

In fact, if you want to know how to talk to girls on Tinder, you need to be able to use this technique.

It’s very simple.

You let her choose between three options.

The way I used this technique is to center three options for our first date in the very first message.

I let her choose between three different first state venues and when she then picks one, I immediately invite her.

This saves a lot of time and it allows you to get a yes very fast.

 

4. Does her pictures offer you food for a first message?

What if she hasn’t written anything in her bio?

Then you can still have a closer look at her profile picture.

Maybe her profile picture reveals something about her personality.

Let’s say for example that she has one picture that shows her backpacking somewhere.

Now you can assume that she loves traveling and that she’s an adventurous girl.

Well, maybe she has a profile picture that shows her at the beach.

Then you can assume that she lost going to the beach and that she prefers warm weather.

Use whatever you can get to create the perfect first message, no matter if you have to look at her profile or at her pictures.

 

5. Never send walls of text on Tinder

The wall of text is a deadly mistake.

Come on, you know what I mean.

Have you ever done it?

You can admit it. It’s okay. So many men have done it and so many men still do it till this day.

He’s what happens:

She doesn’t reply to your text message and you desperately try to get a response by sending her multiple messages.

I have news for you.

She has already seen your message the first time.

There’s no need to send another message and another one.

If she wanted to respond to you, she would have already done it.

When the woman doesn’t respond, you can send one rescue message a couple of days later but then you should move on.

 

6. Describe your first date as a story

As a man who wants to know how to talk to girls on Tinder, you want to be able to tell interesting stories.

And the best story you can tell is the one where you describe the first date you will have with her.

No, I’m not talking about the story of my life. This is not a One Direction concert. This is an article about how to talk to girls.

Think about where you want to take her on your first date.

Now try to create positive emotions in her by telling her how good this date with you will feel.

Instead of just telling her that you want to take her to this one specific restaurant…

… Tell her about the atmosphere, let her know about the amazing drinks, and describe how delicious the food tastes.

Make her want to go on a date with you by making her feel excited about your first date.

 

7. Tease her for being your ex-wife

This is a fun technique that you can use and test while learning how to talk to girls on Tinder.

In fact, this is one of the oldest pick-up techniques.

You tease her by calling her your future ex-wife.

You can even use this technique in the very first message.

For example, you can tell her that she has to go on a date with you because she took all your stuff in the divorce.

Of course, you want to make sure that you communicate this with a lot of smileys.

She has to know that you just teasing her and that you are not serious.

This can be a fun way to talk to women on Tinder.

 

8. Make use of the Tinder video call function

Video calls away superior to simple text messages.

Before Tinder introduced their video call function I would always tell my clients to get a woman’s WhatsApp as soon as possible.

And to be honest, it’s still a good idea to get her WhatsApp.

Being wonderful contact and WhatsApp is still the next level.

But why not use the video call function on Tinder when it’s already there?

Now that you are having a video call with her, you can use your body language, your charm, your charisma, and your facial expressions to your advantage.

 

9. Move on fast when a girl doesn’t respond

Don’t waste your time.

As a man who wants to learn how to talk to girls on Tinder, you do not want to waste your time with women who are obviously not interested in you.

What if she doesn’t respond?

It’s not a big deal.

It’s time to move on and to contact the next girl on Tinder.

You are here because you wanted to learn how to talk to girls on Tinder, and not how to desperately hold on to the one on Tinder.

As a confident man, you should have an abundance mindset.

There’s an abundance of beautiful women in this world.

You can date so many beautiful women and you can meet so many women on Tinder.

You have the choice. Never forget that.