How to Talk to Girls on Instagram (10 Tips)

You want to know how to talk to girls on Instagram.

I have bad news for you.

I know, that’s a very discouraging way of starting an article that’s all about talking to women on Instagram.

I could do what so many other dating coaches do.

They tell you that you just have to use their supersecret and incredible Instagram opener and as a result women will DM you on command.

But that’s not how it works.

Table of Contents

1. 1. Learning how to talk to girls on Instagram requires the opposite technique
2. 2. Do not comment under her pictures
3. 3. Realize that the odds are against you when you have a small following on Instagram
4. 4. Talking to girls on Instagram is a lot easier when you know them
5. 5. Generic compliments don’t work on Instagram
6. 6. Don’t ever send her a picture of your snake
7. 7. Make her laugh with funny memes
8. 8. Move on when she doesn’t reply
9. 9. Improve your Instagram profile and boost your following
10. 10. Talk to more girls on Instagram

Picking up girls on Instagram is hard work.

If you are not willing to put in the work, please leave this site right now and do not continue to read this article.

Or maybe I should say it like this:

Approaching women on Instagram is hard work if you are not a celebrity.

Brad Pitt or Shia LaBeouf don’t have any problems picking up girls on Instagram.

99% of the female human population would respond to a direct message from these guys.

What if you’re not a famous actor or Instagram influencer?

Then follow the following tips and put in the work.

That’s how you can succeed with women on Instagram.

1. Learning how to talk to girls on Instagram requires the opposite technique

What is the opposite technique?

It means that you do the complete opposite of what everyone else is doing on Instagram.

All the other guys are simping their life away.

They treat women who upload beautiful pictures of themselves as goddesses without realizing that they are just human beings.

Believe it or not but even the hottest Instagram model with more than 500000 followers has to poop in the morning.

Never forget that.

Due to all the filters, the makeup, and the perfect Photoshop, a lot of men falsely assume that these women are flawless.

But they’re just human beings.

The sooner you realize that and the more you treat them like human beings, the more success you will have on Instagram.

2. Do not comment under her pictures

Do not do it.

This directly puts you in the Simp Zone and the Friend Zone.

If you’ve ever commented under the picture of a beautiful woman on Instagram I want you to promise yourself that you will never do it again.

There’s nothing more needy and desperate than that.

Why do you think a lot of women nowadays are completely spoilt?

Social media allows them to get free attention 24/7 and if you are one of the guys who provide her with this attention, she’ll never want to date you.

You have to be different.

What I’m about to say now sounds very brutal but I heard this from a woman who works as an Instagram model.

The moment she sees your comment she knows that you were just another simp and she can never respect you and therefore would never date you.

3. Realize that the odds are against you when you have a small following on Instagram

The odds are against you.

That’s just a fact.

No matter where you meet beautiful women on social media, they have the choice.

Your job is to set yourself apart from all the other men who are too boring and uncreative.

Just keep in mind that not every woman will respond to your DM.

In fact, most women will not respond to your DM

But it doesn’t matter.

There’s an abundance of beautiful women on Instagram and you can just move on.

And I know that what I’m saying right now sounds a bit discouraging, but I want you to get a realistic picture of what you are dealing with.

4. Talking to girls on Instagram is a lot easier when you know them

Here’s how to talk to girls on Instagram the easy way:

You already know them and you are just contacting them to set up a date.

That’s the perfect scenario.

Let’s say you need a girl at the party comer you exchange your Instagram and you then contact her.

In this scenario, she already has a personal connection with you which already sets you apart from all the other guys.

What if you want to talk to go to Instagram who you’ve never met?

Then you have to realize something about compliments…

5. Generic compliments don’t work on Instagram

Let’s say you approach a beautiful woman on the street and you give her a compliment.

Will it work?

There’s a high chance that good work because by approaching her face-to-face, she knows that you are confident and she knows that you have options.

What if you use the same technique on Instagram?

She will just assume that you are one of the hundreds if not thousands of guys who send her compliments.

Always remember that message on Instagram doesn’t say anything about your confidence and your self-esteem.

Instead of sending her a generic compliment, focus on a specific attribute or personality trait that you see in her.

This can work.

But here’s what doesn’t work…

6. Don’t ever send her a picture of your snake

Please don’t do that.

I once looked through the DMS of an Instagram model and I’ve never seen so many unsolicited snake pics in my whole life.

Please don’t be one of these guys.

Instead, ask yourself how you can make her laugh without laughing about your snake.

I honestly don’t know why so many guys do this.

There’s not one woman in the history of men kind who wanted to receive an unsolicited snake pic.

The girl you are talking to won’t be the first.

7. Make her laugh with funny memes

As a man who wants to learn how to talk to girls on Instagram, you have to be creative.

You want to make her laugh.

Funny memes are a great way to make her laugh and to also ask her on a date.

Let your creative juices flowing and choose a meme that entertains her and that makes it clear that you are attracted to her.

8. Move on when she doesn’t reply

What if you are talking to this girl on Instagram and she doesn’t reply anymore.

Don’t send her another 10 messages.

Don’t harass her.

Instead, move on and focus on the next girl.

The big advantage that Instagram gives you is that you can choose from so many women.

What if one or two or even three don’t reply?

Simply move on and contact the next girl.

As a man who is learning how to talk to girls on Instagram, you need this abundance mindset.

9. Improve your Instagram profile and boost your following

Instead of focusing all your energy on getting this one girl who doesn’t reply to you…

… Why don’t you focus your effort and energy on improving your Instagram profile and boosting your following?

I hate to say it but Instagram is all about social status.

The more followers you have and the more exciting your pictures are, the easier it will be for you to attract women.

So instead of wasting your time with women who were clearly not interested in you, I want you to work on your profile and your pictures so that you become more interesting.

10. Talk to more girls on Instagram

Remember what I said about the abundance mindset?

There are so many women you can choose from on Instagram.

Beauty is common and abundant.

No murderer how many girls reject you, there’s always another one and then another one.

Have fun while learning how to talk to girls on Instagram just keep going.

Eventually, you’ll get your dream girl.