How to Approach a Girl You Don’t Know 

You want to know how to approach a girl you don’t know.

That’s great. But the one thing that’s holding you back from approaching her is hidden in the second part of this sentence.

Table of Contents

1. How to approach a girl you don’t know with the right mindset
2. The way you walk matters
3. Honesty beats wannabe
4. Find out who she is

How to approach a girl you don’t know with the right mindset

When it comes to approaching women, the biggest obstacle you are facing is that you have the wrong mindset.

Yes, you don’t know her…yet.

But what if you knew her? Imagine the difference it would make to walk up to an incredibly beautiful woman and to approach her with the mindset that you already know her.

Or even better…that she’s already your girlfriend.

Let me ask you something:

Do you ever think about what to say when you are talking to your friends? Do you ever worry about saying something wrong when you are talking to your buddies?

Probably not. You don’t worry about these things because the situation feels familiar because the people you talk to are no strangers.

Now, what happens when you approach a beautiful woman is that you do the opposite.

You worry about what to say. You overthink everything. And you get nervous.

Learning how to approach a girl you don’t know is about practicing pretending that you already know her.

When you walk up to a woman with the mindset that you already know each other or if you are really confident, that she is already yours…you’ll be much calmer and less likely to fall into the overthinking trap.

Just try it the next time you walk up to a girl to start a conversation with her. You’ll feel and see the difference

The way you walk matters

Walking up to a woman is not just about moving your feet and taking one step after another. You communicate so much with your walk.

Unfortunately, a lot of men communicate insecurity and doubt when they walk up to a woman. They walk with their head hanging down and with small timid steps.

Are you a leader or a coward?

In case you scream “I’m a leader”, then I want to ask you: When will you start walking like one?

A leader doesn’t take small steps. A leader takes big steps. He walks with a purpose and he is not afraid that others might witness his mission. He goes for what he wants.

Do you go for what you want?

Then approach her by walking up to her with a confident walk. And say what you truly want to say…

Honesty beats wannabe

There are so many wannabe pickup guys out there who try to impress women with their weird openers.

Who lies more…men or women?

Sometimes I can’t believe that anyone is still using these lines from the early days of Mystery and Neil Strauss. Please don’t turn into a robot who has three lines on his hard drive and is lost without them.

Please don’t get me wrong. Having one or two openers to make things easier when you are getting started is absolutely fine. But there comes a time when you have to ascend from Padawan to Jedi Master.

As a Jedi Master you don’t use any weird lines with who lies more. You also don’t ask a woman to help you to find a birthday present for the sister you don’t have.

That’s not how to approach a girl you don’t know…at least not when you want to win her over.

Instead, you do what so many men are incapable of doing…

You are honest.

Do you want her as a good friend? No! Do you want her to look at you and see a guy who is too shy to speak his truth? No!

You want her to respect you and you want her to feel attraction for you. That’s what you want.

And because that’s what you want, you should be honest about what you want.

Do you think she’s beautiful? Tell her how beautiful she is in your eyes?

Do you like her energy? Tell her how you feel in her presence?

Women respect men who are honest and they hate men who are too insecure to honestly communicate their intention.

Find out who she is

Now you know that learning how to approach a girl you don’t know is about having the right mindset and being honest.

But of course, running up to her and telling her that she is beautiful is just the start. It’s a very good start, but you need to do a bit more if you want to win her over and get her number.

When you want to approach a woman, your goal is never the approach itself…or at least it shouldn’t be.

Your goal should be to connect with her in such an effortless and fun way that she wants to see you again.

Always keep in mind that the approach is just the easiest way to open the door. Once the door is open, you have to convince her with your flirting skills that you deserve to walk through the door.

That’s why you need to talk to her about something. The question is: about what?

The answer: About anything that excites her.

You are also more likely to want to meet someone again when you talked about something that excites you.

Why should it be any different for women?

Your job is to find out what she is interested in and what she is passionate about. Don’t focus too much on making small talk.

Always remember:

Emotions lead to a connection.

That’s why it’s important that you find out which emotional topics excite her. Then you talk about these topics with her.

Her face will reveal how much she enjoys talking about a certain topic.

And if you want her to feel even more warm and fuzzy feelings for you, then you can find similarities between you and her and mention them.

Human beings are biologically programmed to like people who are similar.

If you realize that you are compatible when it comes to a certain belief or interest, dive in deep.

Don’t hold back. Go all in and show her how compatible you are.

That’s how to approach a girl you don’t know and make her fall for you fast.

By doing that you will be able to create situations in which the woman you talk to gets the feeling that she knows you forever.

And yes, you can create this feeling during the first ten minutes of an interaction.

You just have to approach her exactly like I just shared with you. I know that you can do it. Have fun approaching beautiful girls.