Do you want to know how to approach a girl at the gym?
Then take your plans and throw them out of the window.
Yes, I’m serious.
Let me guess. You just wanted to walk up to her, give her a compliment about her body, and then ask for her number.
Don’t get me wrong.
That’s a good idea…if you would approach her at the mall or in the middle of a busy shopping street.
What if you do that at the gym?
You will fail.
Table of Contents
- How to approach a girl at the gym: No mass approaching
- Make sure that he boyfriend is not around
- Establish eye contact before you approach her
- Wait with the approach until she’s alone
- Give her a compliment about her workout ability
- Don’t ask her for her number yet
- Ask her if she wants to have a quick chat after her workout
That’s a guarantee. Sounds too harsh? Well, sometimes the truth hurts.
But it’s better to be a bit shocked now than to fail at approaching women at the gym when it’s time to put my advice into action.
You have to keep in mind that the gym is a very special social environment. It’s not like any other place where you might talk to girls.
That’s what makes learning how to approach a girl at the gym so tricky.
And that’s what makes the standard pickup approach so ineffective.
How to approach a girl at the gym: No mass approaching
What do most self-proclaimed pickup artists tell you to do?
Approach as many women as possible!
And sure, that makes sense when you are at a big club with hundreds of women. And it makes even more sense when you are doing daygame.
I mean, you can approach 100 women a day in a busy shopping street and more women will come.
How about the gym?
It’s a closed environment. There are usually more men than women. And there might just be two or three rooms to choose from.
By saying “yes” to learning how to approach a girl at the gym, you say yes to a challenging situation and potential traps.
As a result, you have to focus on one woman per gym session. This means that your approach has to be perfectly executed.
Are you ready to scream “challenge accepted” from the rooftop?
Then you are ready to learn how to approach a girl at the gym.
Make sure that he boyfriend is not around
You see her. You can’t look away.
Her body is the definition of perfection. Her thighs and her curves and her booty…she is incredibly beautiful.
I know exactly what’s happening right now.
Your hormones are dancing the tango. You want to talk to her so bad. In fact, you can already imagine doing other things with her.
For a moment you forget that you are in a cage with sharks that are swimming left and right from you.
You forget that you are at the gym.
Before you take the next step I want to remind you of a fact that most men who want to learn how to approach a girl at the gym don’t even think of it.
She might have a boyfriend and he might be right around the corner.
Yep, a lot of couples go to the gym. And nobody can guarantee you that her boyfriend isn’t taking some stuff that turns him into the Hulk.
Of course, the chance that things escalate is slim to none, even if she’s at the gym with her boyfriend.
It might be a bit awkward and that’s it.
However, you have to keep in mind that some men who hit the gym are taking substances that have an impact on their mood and their ability to control emotions.
The moral of the story:
Always check if her boyfriend is around.
Establish eye contact before you approach her
You want to know if she likes you.
Even though establishing eye contact is always a good idea when you want to talk to a woman, it’s especially important at the gym.
If you look a woman in the eyes who walks past you in the street and she doesn’t reciprocate the eye contact, you can still approach her.
She might reject you. But it’s not a big deal. Another woman will walk past you in just a few seconds.
What if this happens at the gym?
Let’s say you try to hold eye contact with the girl of your workout dreams. She doesn’t reciprocate the eye contact.
Then you smile at her. She doesn’t smile back. Instead, she looks really annoyed to the side.
Should you still approach her?
I say no because she sent you clear signals.
And because you are in such a small closed environment with high social pressure, it’s way too risky.
You can try the same eye contact and smile routine with another woman. She might like you and respond differently.
Then you can talk to that girl.
You’ll thank yourself for not having approached the first girl who showed signs of disinterest because now you still have your one shot.
If girl number two had seen you approach girl number one, she would have probably rejected you immediately.
Now that you have waited for the right girl, you can approach her and it will be a big success.
Wait with the approach until she’s alone
But you will only succeed if you wait until she is alone.
You are here because you want to know how to approach a girl at the gym. Then you have to be ready to wait.
Let’s say she’s working out at the leg press and she’s surrounded by five buff dudes who will go e you hell when you approach her.
What do you do now?
You wait until she’s at the abs machine where nobody is surrounding her. Now you approach her.
Always wait until she is alone because the likelihood of guys trying to mess up your interaction is very high at the gym.
Give her a compliment about her workout ability
Don’t compliment her looks.
You don’t want to be just another drooling guy who stares at her butt while she’s doing squats.
Instead of telling her that she has a nice booty, let her know that she seems to be very skilled at working out.
Compliment her workout routine and then connect with her by using your passion for working out.
Share your workout schedule with her. Let her know for how long you are already working out. Communicate your passion for fitness.
Now that she knows that you have so much in common, she’ll be more likely to give you her number.
The question you have to ask yourself now is:
Should you already ask for her number?
Don’t ask her for her number yet
Yep, it’s not the right time…unless there is nobody next to you or surrounding you.
Women are afraid of social judgment. They don’t want to be seen by others as an easy girl.
She might reject your attempt to get her number because she doesn’t want to be seen giving it to you.
Here’s what you do instead…
Ask her if she wants to have a quick chat after her workout
That’s how to approach a girl at the gym and succeed.
Instead of asking her for her number while she’s working out, you prove that you have emotional intelligence.
Now she knows that you consider her fear of getting judged. This makes her trust you even more.
Just ask her if she wants to have a quick chat after her workout.
You can then meet at the exit or if the gym has a relaxation area where you can get drinks, that would be even better.
Now you can get to know her and ask for her number.