“I have a strong fear of cheating on my partner.”
When I heard the sentence for the very first time I thought to myself that I misunderstood the meaning of the sentence.
I assume that this person who set the sentence to me meant that they are afraid that their partner will cheat on them.
Then I asked them what they really meant and if I misunderstood them.
What happened next shocked me.
Table of Contents
- 1. Fear of cheating on my partner: Why do I have this fear?
- 2. Did you ever create an opportunity to cheat on your partner?
- 3. Does the thought of cheating on your partner scare or excite you?
- 4. Would you be able to forgive yourself for cheating on her?
- 5. Do you value your relationship more than an adventure?
- 6. Do you ever fantasize about cheating on your girlfriend?
- 7. What are you really afraid of?
This person told me that they are not afraid that their partner would cheat on them but that they will cheat on their partner.
This conversation happened a couple of years ago.
Since then, I have coached several clients who had the same fear and who were dealing with the same emotional turmoil.
Do you also sometimes have the fear of cheating on your partner?
Are you afraid that you could do something that you would regret for the rest of your life?
Are you afraid to break the heart of the one person that matters so much to you?
Then this article about the fear of cheating on my partner is for you.
1. Fear of cheating on my partner: Why do I have this fear?
There can be multiple reasons why you are afraid to do what you don’t want to do.
Maybe you have done it in the past and you don’t want that history repeats itself.
Yes, maybe you have cheated on one of your ex-girlfriends and with your current girlfriend, you don’t want to make the same mistake.
We are all human.
We all did things in our past that we wouldn’t do anymore at our current level of consciousness.
I don’t judge you for what you have done in the past but I remind you that if you make the same mistake twice, only you are to blame for it.
That’s why you might think about your fear of cheating on your partner.
Or maybe you have never cheated on your partner but you don’t have a lot of bedroom experience.
You might be afraid that the curiosity to explore other bodies and to taste other lips, will get the best of you.
These are all legitimate reasons why you might have this fear of cheating on my partner.
No matter why you are afraid of betraying the person you are with, the following questions that I want to ask you can help you to find out what you’re really afraid of and what you can do about it.
2. Did you ever create an opportunity to cheat on your partner?
I know, that’s a very direct question.
But I want you to be as honest as you can possibly be.
Did you ever create an opportunity to cheat on your girlfriend?
Did you ever exchange numbers with the woman who clearly wanted more than just friendship?
Did you ever go home with a woman even though you knew that she wanted to end up in bed with you?
In case you have willingly created opportunities that would allow you to cheat on your girlfriend, you have to be careful.
This means that it’s not just a fear of cheating on my partner.
In this case, you either consciously or subconsciously enjoy the thrill that you could do it.
Heck, the idea to cheat on your partner might even turn you on.
You are in dangerous territory.
But what if you have never created such an opportunity?
What if creating an opportunity to cheat on your partner is something that you can’t even imagine?
This means that you don’t have to worry about anything.
This means that the fear of cheating on my partner is just an irrational fear in your mind that won’t come true.
3. Does the thought of cheating on your partner scare or excite you?
This is an important question that you must ask yourself.
Does the thought of cheating on your partner actually excite you or does it scare you?
In case the idea of you being unfaithful in your relationship excites you, you have a huge problem.
I hate to say it but I want to be honest with you.
In this case, it’s very likely that you will eventually cheat on your girlfriend.
You might be able to fight this excitement for quite some time but when the opportunity arises then…well…
What if the thought of cheating on your partner scares you?
What if it feels like waking up from a nightmare?
Then I would say that you have nothing to worry about.
In this case the fear of cheating on my partner it’s just an expression of you not wanting to do something that you wouldn’t really consider doing anyway.
4. Would you be able to forgive yourself for cheating on her?
That’s another important question you must ask yourself in regards to the fear of cheating on my partner.
Would you be okay with cheating on your partner or not?
Now you might be thinking that nobody could possibly be okay with doing that.
In case you have this thought right now while reading this article, you are already in the category of men who would not cheat on their girlfriends.
There are people out there, and that’s true for men and for women, who are so cold-hearted that they just don’t care.
In case you’re not one of them, you can worry less about your fear of cheating on my partner.
5. Do you value your relationship more than an adventure?
What do you value more, your relationship or a short-term adventure with a new woman?
The answer to this question has a huge impact on whether or not you will be cheating on your girlfriend.
If you value your relationship more than a short-term adventure with another woman, it is very likely that you won’t do anything.
But if you value a short-term adventure with another woman more than your current relationship, it’s likely that you will be unfaithful.
In this case, it’s also very likely, that you won’t regret it.
6. Do you ever fantasize about cheating on your girlfriend?
In case you were answering this question with “of course not I would never fantasize about this” you don’t have to worry that much.
But what if you have this fantasy?
What if you are constantly thinking about doing it?
This might shock you now but there are people who have a cheating fetish.
The idea of being unfaithful to their partner turns them on.
In case you were one of those people, you will most likely not stay faithful.
However, I believe that you are not one of these people.
If you were, you wouldn’t be reading an article about the fear of cheating on my partner.
7. What are you really afraid of?
It’s very likely that you are not even afraid of the act of cheating itself.
What you’re really afraid of is losing the woman you love.
What do you really afraid of is to do something, anything, that could motivate your girlfriend to leave you.
That’s why I admire you for having read this article about the fear of cheating on my partner.
It means that you care about her and about your relationship.
That’s why I’m very confident that you will not do what you are so afraid of.